Thursday, June 3, 2010

Winners and Whiners: Which one are you?

I'm reading a book called, "The Top 10 Distinctions Between Winners and Whiners." In it, the author, Keith Cameron Smith, highlights the differences between winners and whiners. How does this relate to flying?

Many of us have been whiners for many years. We blame the chaos on our husbands, or our kids, our work schedule or our health. We have allowed this chaos to control us and then decided to blame everyone else for our situation.

Winners Take Responsibility.

Whiners Play the Victim.

Let me repeat that: Winners take responsibility. Whiners play the victim.

We make choices every day. Those choices are your responsibility. That's how winners see it. Whiners, on the other hand, think that choices depend on circumstances and that those circumstances are someone else's fault.

Choices determine circumstances, circumstances do NOT determine choices. You can choose to stay in chaos. You can choose to declutter and simplify your life. As long as you whine, you will never become a winner. That choice is also yours.

Victims complain and blame. This leads to disappointment and discouragement. Many flybabies are discouraged. The truth is, we all face disappointment. But when we are disappointed, we have two choices: we can find a way to encourage ourselves, or we can become discouraged. And beneath discouragement is depression. We can't fly if we are depressed.

It's okay to be disappointed, it's not okay to be discouraged. Learn the difference. Choose to be a winner. Whining comes from negative thinking and blame. Choose to focus your thoughts on positive things. Take responsibility for your thoughts and circumstances. That is the first step to becoming a winner and learning to FLY!

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